Today while giving a Reiki session, the words, “What’s good?” came into my head. As I wasn’t thinking about anything in particular, save the feel of the energy, I knew it was an important message.
I said to my client, who is struggling with ongoing guilt, that in every situation is an opportunity for us to find the good in it. Even when things suck. Even when something feels terrible, that’s only our assessment of it, and we can choose to find the good.
So – at first, asking “What’s good?” might ilicit a snarky, “Nothing! This sucks!” comeback from our mind. But then, ask again. “What’s good?” What possible good can be found in this situation?
Begrudgingly, the mind may offer something small. It might start with, “Well, at least it wasn’t worse.” It might be, “I got through it somehow.” It might even be followed by the word, “but” and a reiteration of the tough side of things again, as if it’s necessary to reaffirm the bad part. It’s funny how we tend to cling to the bad as if it’s giving us bragging rights.
Again, though, come back to, “What’s good?” And there may be more that you can think of. Maybe something you’ve learned from the experience. Maybe some experience you can share with someone else so they don’t suffer as you did. Maybe you’re wiser, smarter, or stronger because of this experience. These are all good things.
The more we focus on the good, the more we feel goodness is the focus of our lives. The suffering shrinks in comparison eventually, as we spend more time seeking, finding, acknowledging, and then being grateful for those good things.
And that moves us toward a more enlightened way to live.
Wishing you all good things.