Here it is! Today is my 49th birthday. The first day of the last year of my 40s.And, things are good! Here are some of the things I’ve been doing since my 48th birthday:I’m working on completing my dissertation, with an eye on graduating in May.I have …
Today while giving a Reiki session, the words, “What’s good?” came into my head. As I wasn’t thinking about anything in particular, save the feel of the energy, I knew it was an important message. I said to my client, who is struggling with ongoin…
Today while giving a Reiki session, the words, “What’s good?” came into my head. As I wasn’t thinking about anything in particular, save the feel of the energy, I knew it was an important message.
I said to my client, who is struggling with ongoing guilt, that in every situation is an opportunity for us to find the good in it. Even when things suck. Even when something feels terrible, that’s only our assessment of it, and we can choose to find the good.
So – at first, asking “What’s good?” might ilicit a snarky, “Nothing! This sucks!” comeback from our mind. But then, ask again. “What’s good?” What possible good can be found in this situation?
Begrudgingly, the mind may offer something small. It might start with, “Well, at least it wasn’t worse.” It might be, “I got through it somehow.” It might even be followed by the word, “but” and a reiteration of the tough side of things again, as if it’s necessary to reaffirm the bad part. It’s funny how we tend to cling to the bad as if it’s giving us bragging rights.
Again, though, come back to, “What’s good?” And there may be more that you can think of. Maybe something you’ve learned from the experience. Maybe some experience you can share with someone else so they don’t suffer as you did. Maybe you’re wiser, smarter, or stronger because of this experience. These are all good things.
The more we focus on the good, the more we feel goodness is the focus of our lives. The suffering shrinks in comparison eventually, as we spend more time seeking, finding, acknowledging, and then being grateful for those good things.
And that moves us toward a more enlightened way to live.
Wishing you all good things.
Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry that it’s been a full year since I blogged here. I really planned to keep this going more regularly. It’s a challenge. Lots has been going on, as that’s my life.It’s good stuff. Busy stuff. Working, creating, thinking, pare…
Today is my 47th birthday.Every year, I blog on my birthday. This is my 10th birthday blog, and I’m proud of that.I did, as I do every year, look back and read through some of my previous blogs. I realized – I am a busy person! I do a lot in a year.Sin…
The US election has been overwhelming. First, all of the relentless campaigning and social media overload. Then, add to that the way people were angry at each other, the increase in crime, and just a lot of energetic noise. The election results, unstab…
Here are two simple and practical techniques that helped me stop worrying.
Maybe they’ll help you too.
Give a try and let me know! I welcome your thoughts!
Getting in touch with your spiritual side can enhance your sexual experiences too. Here’s why.First, let’s talk about the spiritual connection. Practicing any sort of spiritual practice – such as meditation, Reiki, energy healing practices of other kin…
Getting in touch with your spiritual side can enhance your sexual experiences too. Here’s why.
First, let’s talk about the spiritual connection. Practicing any sort of spiritual practice – such as meditation, Reiki, energy healing practices of other kinds, etc. makes you aware of something outside yourself that is also connected to yourself.
More than that, this spiritual energy that you’re connected with is ALSO you. That’s the Duality of Being. (And also the Unity.) What I mean here is that we are all one, conscious energy that is having an individual experience. Every life form on the planet, every plant, animal and person, is having a conscious, individual experience, and is connected to each other at the very same time.
If you’re still with me, you may be wondering why a singular conscious energy would want a zillion or so different individual experiences. That’s where it gets interesting. The illusion of an individual experience is for experiencing and learning.
If the One energy source was only that, it would not be able to learn or experience anything. In order to experience anything, that experience is a reaction to something outside ourselves. If it’s outside ourselves, it is not perceived as us. Even if we experience pain in our stomachs, that pain feels like something “other” than our “normal” selves. Experience is a reaction.
Now, becoming aware of being both an individual experience and something much, much bigger is a powerfully spiritual experience. It allows us to step outside ourselves to see our individual emotions from a more objective perspective. We can analyze our experiences without them defining us.
By now, you’re probably wondering what the heck this has to do with sex. I will get there. Hang with me for another moment.
When we are able to step outside of ourselves and observe the ways in which we interact in this illusionary reality, we are living as our true aspect – that of Spirit. We are not caught up in the storm of emotions or the trappings of ego. What is Spirit really? Love. Pure love. That’s what the One energy source that is our true essence is made of.
So, in a nutshell, we are Love experiencing and learning by completely empathizing with each individual consciousness. We are capable of shifting our perspective through meditation, for example, to be that One consciousness, and send love to our little individual selves as we live, learn, and try to make sense of everything we are experiencing.
We can also have compassion for other people, and empathize with them. That is a beautiful quality, a spiritual one. It makes the world better.
And here, finally, is the connection to sex. Good job making it this far.
The more we are aware of this spiritual connection throughout the day, the more we connect with the essences of it – gratitude, love, compassion – in short, the more we elevate our existence in this way, then the more our lovemaking naturally becomes influenced by this idea. Because, the natural compassion we are used to having extends to the lover during that time.
If we focus on our partner during sex, paying close attention to how the partner is responding to touch of every kind, and adjusting our touch to what is obviously pleasurable to the partner, we are empathizing with that person as that person is experiencing it. We, ourselves, can share their pleasure while participating in creating it. In doing so, we are experiencing being spiritually one with that person – creating a much higher level of lovemaking.
The soul of sensuality is very spiritual.
And that’s the message I got today.
I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t care about scientific proof that Reiki, or life force energy, or chakras, or angels, or guides, or ancestors, spirits, or any energetic forces exist. I just don’t care what scientists have to say about their validity or not.
I see posts on Facebook saying that Science has Proven that the Aura is Real! Give me a break. I can feel the aura pulsing when I give Reiki. I can tell where it starts and I can find the areas where it is damaged. I can feel energy changing frequency when it’s healing itself.
I don’t need science to validate my work, my beliefs (which come from experience), or the results that Reiki can offer.
I also don’t need science to proclaim that human thought creates changes. I already know. I have manifested more results in my life through the power of intention and expectation than I can list.
I have arrived at a place in my own life where I trust my experiences, listen to my intuition, and guide my life based on those signals. And, it’s working.
If you’re waiting for science, I would advise you to stop wasting your time. Live. Listen to your innermost knowing. Give it a chance to tell you what’s real, to show you your Truth. And then see what happens when you do.